Being an overthinker
I am a chronic overthinker. As much as I’ve worked a lot on self-esteem, self-acceptance and self-talk, I still struggle with overthinking, (particularly negative thoughts) on a fairly regular basis.
I worry what people think of me, I worry about making mistakes and most of all, I worry about failing. The truth is that even though I’m fortunate to have had a lot of therapy, good friends, a supportive family, have been ‘successful’ academically and have amazing coaching clients, I get this nagging feeling of not being enough (aka imposter syndrome). That is what is at the root of the overthinking. Whenever I work on feeling good about myself, I am much more able to let go. I can make a decision and accept the consequences. I can deal with being criticised or disliked by others. I can mess up and be okay with it.
We are all a work in progress and we should not pretend otherwise. Having struggles doesn’t make you weak, it makes you human. What’s amazing is that by dealing with challenges, we become stronger in ourselves but also more able to help others.
Be kind to yourself, accept your imperfections and remember that you are capable of so much more than you realise.